Dear Andy:

I understand your concern about your friends thinking you are weak and remembering your previous thread, you wrote that friends gave you advice that didn’t benefit you, writing her a note and giving it to her. You followed their advice and regretted it.

I suppose there are all kinds of friends, different degrees of closeness. I imagine a closer male friend will not think of you as weak for being human. A closer friend, one that is honest about his own feelings, will understand it is only human (and not unmanly) to grieve a love relationship with a woman.

Yes, there are all kinds of relationships. Some are fun at times but give advice that is not useful or gave the “get over it” attitude, that is also not useful.

Notice the different kinds of relationships and aim at having at least one more authentic relationship, where you feel accepted and not negatively criticized.

If you are super close with this friend you mentioned, then you can reach out to him and that can make a real difference to you. And in addition to it, post here any time and I will answer every time!

anita