Dear zenstrawberry:

It is a great challenge to try to be helpful to you because you already know what to do and you are already doing those things. It seems to me that your relationship with your boyfriend was the game changer in an otherwise good plan. The relationship with him changed things for you. You wrote that you were an externally oriented person before him and that you turned inward as a result of knowing him. Your connection with him got deeper as your connection with your family and others got weaker. Am I understanding you correctly so far?

If so, what is it that happened between you and him? You didn’t share much about the relationship itself: what were the fights about???

anita