Thank you, Anita, for your reply.

Yes, I have told him a number of times that I don’t like it here, without trying to make it sound like I’m nagging. I have told him that I live here because of him. I did tell him at the beginning of the eight years, but we both chalked it up to me being homesick. I have mentioned it to him in subsequent years, as well. He knows I don’t like the place, as he has said to me, “I know you don’t like anything about this area.”

He responds by being genuinely sad that I am unhappy. However, anytime I make suggestions that I look for another job in a different area or suggest a job posting for him that he would be qualified for, he gives me some logic-laden response why we should just stay put.