Dear orchid24:

I wonder how old you are and how old your husband is, if you have long term goals as far as career, children, place to live, and such? Did the desert location start as a temporary-to-be move? And does his job pay especially well, the practical reason he keeps doing it and keeps going at it?

I also wonder if he is easily distressed and that is why he is drained at the end of every work day or if his job is indeed very stressful. I wonder if he is fearful and tends to postpone choices that need to be made for a later, and later.. and later time. I wonder if he fears changes, any changes? (I do wonder a lot)

There are many possible ingredients to this situation and if you’d like to continue to communicate with me about it, please do.

anita