Hi Anita,

In fairness there was reasonable contact until the last 4 weeks and now its very sporadic and related to issues re the house and so on. Its almost like the light switch has gone off despite all the good things I did for her and the children, amazing given that she left an abusive husband who paid no maintenance but she still has contact. For the first time in my life I felt relaxed in a relationship and maybe given our personalities I eased back to much. All I know that is that the real me has been lost and I have tried to pull myself out of it too no avail…this is not who i am, I have always been a rock to other people and I mourn the loss of the future I thought we had too.

I’m glad I found this forum and hope to take some solace from what I read.

Jonny