Sparkie,

Thank you for sharing your personal story with us on here. My heart goes out to you.

You being violated as a child is something you should discuss with someone you feel comfortable with. Do whatever you feel is right for you to heal from that. Whether it’s seeking a counselor who specializes with things like that, a family member, a friend, someone you love or all of the above. You are not alone in this, as many women have been victims of molestation when they were a child/teen. You are supported in this and not alone.

It is probably best that you continue to stay away from your uncle and cut him out of your life for good. As what he did was criminal and you don’t need to be reminded of that, so I would act like he’s deceased so that you’re not reminded of the heinous act he committed towards you.

You have the right to ask questions about you biological father all you want. As those types of questions should be respected by the person who needs to give you those answers. Both Mom and step-dad are old and grown enough to be able to answer you honestly without hesitation. There’s nothing you need to fear for wanting to know the facts about your biological identity. There’s nothing abnormal about it at all actually. You’re grown and deserve answers when it comes to your biological identity, always.

Sending you lots of love, positivity and light you way. 🙂

M