Dear dreaming715:

Excellent assertion: clear, direct, honest, excellent! What you wrote above is still not a final draft, correct? If I was to write him a note, I would edit the above to suit the purpose of expressing my anger. I would not list my standards for a healthy relationship because in this exercise you are not seeking a relationship with him (and therefore letting him know what your standards for a relationship with him are).

I offered to edit your writing to him in my previous post. This is my initial effort of editing. If you see value in it, please do edit the following. The whole exercise, to express your anger authentically, requires your editing, again and again, so to see to it that it is indeed authentic and true:

1) You told me multiple times: “We should meet-up this weekend,” or “I’ll text you tomorrow,” and then you did not follow through what you told me. It was wrong of you to not walk your talk, to not follow through with what you told me.

2) You (how often?) texted me multiple times a day, asking to see me, and then suddenly you withdrew to the point of going at least two weeks without any effort to text me, answer my texts or see me. It was wrong of you to withdraw/ disappear from my life with no warning and no explanation.

3) You were not forthright, not honest and self serving with me about your feelings. You used vague statements like, “Let’s just see where this goes.” “I don’t know where our future will lead… only time will tell.” You mislead me by being vague. It was wrong of you to choose vague language so to confuse me.

I hope you find this valuable. If you do, would you like to edit (your writing, my editing) next?

anita