Dear wingedmind:

I suppose you can choose to cut contact with him, that is, to “drop him”- but I don’t think you can take things “with a grain of salt”, that is to not feel what you are feeling.

If you can’t tolerate what you are feeling, if you are overwhelmed and can’t manage those feelings, then dropping him sounds like a good solution. If you can manage your own feelings, endure them and still operate rationally, then I wouldn’t drop him.

The question is, do you feel that you are in control of your behavior, that you can behave in ways that will be okay with you, no matter how you feel- or do you feel that you will be blown away by your feelings and be out of control?

anita