Dear dreaming715:

It is possible, i am thinking, that the guys in the bars approached the other girls in the group and not you because they sensed the other girls were more likely to welcome their approach than you. Nothing more or less than that.

The guys just wanted good results for their efforts, to get Yes, for a dance, a may-I-get-to-know-you and such.

If you attended a professional competition for the best dressed, make up, you may have won the competition as number one. But you attended instead an event where a bunch of guys want a Yes from a girl when approaching her.

Even though you didn’t cross your arms, smiled and tried to make eye contact, maybe your smile didn’t seem genuine or convincing to the guys (the energy they picked up, as you suggested).

The fact that you were not approached has no relevance whatsoever to your worth or attractiveness, I strongly believe. It only means… they believed they had a better chance with the others.

anita