Dear JournoGirl:

At first reading of your post, it seems like a no- brainer to me:

Your husband is dishonest with you (!). He is unreliable and destructive to your mental well being.
You don’t have children.
There is this single (?) man outside your marriage who is honest with you and is constructive to your mental well being.

Why aren’t you divorcing your husband and committing yourself to an exclusive relationship with this other man?

anita