Dear Stasia:

She is amazingly crude and cruel.

I would go off on her verbally and in so doing, put a definite ending to any and all communication with her regardless how it affects her parents. If she goes to complain about you to her parents (isn’t she already?)- it is her responsibility doing that, and it is her parents’ responsibility as to how they react.

And besides, her (and your husband’s) parents must have some responsibility for helping to bring about such a crude and cruel daughter, so if they suffer some from her complaining to them, that would be the natural consequence of their actions; of their parenting of her.

anita