Dear Jenna:

I suppose it makes sense, the “bestest friends” term meaning better friends to each other than to any other friend, a sort of exclusive friendship. I think I understand.

You were very much affected by this friendship, so much so that you feel that you are a different person now that you were before the friendship. At the end of your original post you asked: “How can I find myself again, how do I get over it, how do I stop caring if he and Kendall talk a lot (because I still get jealous), and does it seem like what I did was the right thing to do?”

At this point, what is your friendship status? Are you friends? And are you bestest friends? If I was you, and I am still interacting with Andy, i would discuss with him the Rules-of-Friendship (or bestfriendship) – come up with the definition of it, the expectations and be very clear about those, seeing to it that the friendship means the same thing to the both of you.

As far as him getting very angry at you, like a monster- this is what your question is about? Whether you did the right thing, that it whether it was right for you to control yourself and say nothing rude to him?

If you would like, share more about what he told you that time.. what do you mean that he became like a monster? How was he like a monster… and what did he say?

anita