Dear anxiousangel:

No, I don’t think your problem is too big to solve. I think it would be impossible to solve without you practicing patience with yourself. And it is also required that your understanding is not limited to intellect, bare intellect. You need to understand yourself as a rational and an emotional being. Without your understanding of your emotions, motivations, needs… all the bare intellectual understanding will be of no use.

You can gain intellectual understanding very quickly. But emotional understanding, that takes time and …(that word again) patience.

Your problem is not too big to solve if you have patience and if you… patiently attend to your emotional being.

You mentioned potential vs tangible results. “Tangible” is what we can touch, the word itself. If something is tangible, it means we can touch it. Emotional understanding is like that, tangible, meaning we can feel it. Bare intellectual understanding is intangible.

Much easier and faster to think. Difficult and slow, to feel. So patience. Whatever you want tangible results with, start small. Authenticity? Start small, nothing is too small to exercise if it promotes authenticity. Once you do something small, the next thing will not look as impossible as it looks like now. One small step at a time, and over time, with persistence, gentleness with yourself and that … other word you need more of.

anita