Dear Ravi:

I was wondering about the sentence you said: “You want her to die…” ever since I read it. I know there is something meaningful there and I don’t know what it is yet. But we can figure it out over time. What you said, that sentence, means a lot- there is a valuable message there. Don’t know it yet.

Your grandmother is very (and yes, extremely!) controlling of you and overprotective and in so doing, she is giving you the message that life is very scary and you can’t handle it yourself, therefore you need her. Same with your parents’ message to you, being overprotective of you, doing your assertions for you or offering to do so.

And when the dangerous neighbor came by, they told you to be quiet. So they don’t think Fighting is the right way, angrily confronting a situation. They only believe in avoiding danger, running away.

And so they all have encouraged you to not fight, only to run away? To avoid? They all gave you the message that being angry is a bad thing and being fearful is the… way to go (family tradition, to be fearful and avoid/ run away)?

anita