Dear Jenna:

You have a strong need to have a close loving connection with another, to be someone’s “number one”- to be uniquely special to someone. When a person has such a strong need and is desperate to have it met, such a person will accept anything that sounds right, feels right at any one time, and excuse times of abuse, hanging on to words and sentiments here and there.

Notice your strong need and differentiate between how badly you need to be special in someone’s life AND what is really going on.

When someone purposefully hurts you, they don’t love you when they do that and it is not a loving relationship.

anita