I understand your fear of commitment if you have any doubts. But I also think it is impossible to have no doubts when you are contemplating a big commitment like marriage. And what you are going through seems normal.

Your boyfriend seems to have a lot of very good qualities. He brings out the best in you, which is huge. He supports you during times of hardship. You have the same values and wants for the future. Those are major good points in his favor.

I am wondering how long have you been together? Maybe you need more time before you are ready to commit to marriage. There is no reason to rush.

Also it seems you are going through a hard time yourself battling anorexia. It doesn’t seem wise to make one of the biggest decisions in your life at a time when you are not stable within yourself. Maybe you need time to focus on your own life and learn more about your wants and needs. Are you confident that you can be yourself within the relationship? Will you have the freedom and space to grow and explore and to do what you need to do to live your life fully if you stay with him?

Even though he is different from you, do you respect and admire him? Is he someone you are proud to be with?

Do you lean on him too much and does this prevent you from finding your own inner stability? This situation might be comforting now but could feel stifling in 20 years.

I don’t know the answers to these questions but it might be something to think about.

As far as money and prestige, I do not think this leads to happiness. But you do want someone who is responsible and reliable enough that you can feel secure that your basic needs will be looked after.