Dear Ravi:

Change of plans, still here, will soon leave.

You can stop thanking me now and in the next ten posts.

You wrote that you want to “root out my anger from the core”-

For this purpose, your purpose, you have to look at your upbringing and your past and see where the roots of your anger are. For the purpose, your purpose, of rooting out your anger from the core, it is necessary to look at your past: the roots were put in place a long time ago.

You can try all you want to use will power to change your behavior, and to a limited extent you may succeed but only in a very limited way and often not at all.

The roots are in the past. Do blame those who harmed you then. It is necessary so to heal yourself from that damage.

You are responsible for your behavior now AND (not or) you need to look into the past (that is keep happening as you live with the same people.. still). You did not develop in a vacuum. You developed in response to interactions you had all your life with your parents and grandmother. This is why the roots are there.

anita