Dear Ravi:

You wrote above that you are assertive with your parents but arguments escalate. If there are arguments between you and your parents, and those arguments escalate, there is lack of assertiveness. When you are assertive, you don’t argue. You state what you need with strength. If you argue it means they did not respect your assertiveness. Doesn’t it?

I think you missed, in your last post, your real need (and the second part of the solution to your sometimes explosive anger, second to self control) to be assertive: with your parents. And with your grandmother ! And with every single person, family, friend, stranger… everyone!

Both: assertiveness and control. And patience, of course. Always patience.

anita