Dear marsh:

Reading your post above, I see that she did communicate to you a few things:

She told you that she is “really enjoying being alone”. that she “can;t afford to move out right now” that you “should stay (where you are) a bit longer”, that she thinks you “won’t like it where she has moved (where you were supposed to move to so to be with her) and she said even more, all pointing to a change in plans: the plan that you move with her is cancelled, she cancelled it. She sounds distant and has expressed to you this distance with words.

But then she said she loves you and let’s “see how this works out”- what works out, I don’t know. This is not looking promising at all.

You asked: “Is she genuine? Or letting me go gently? So how would you take this, how would you go about it?”

My guess is letting you got gently, and I am sorry to voice this opinion here, because you are probably hurting at the thought. Her words and behavior is consistent with that. What is for sure is that she does not want you moving where she is at. She said that.

What are you going to do next?

anita