Dear marsh:

I don’t think that it is selfish of you to feel disappointed and distressed over the fact that you are no longer a high priority in her life. If she is now employed while before she was not, I would understand her being less available time wise, to talk to you when on the job. And maybe it would mean she went to bed earlier and would not be available to talk to you as late as she used to.

But she is placing the following priorities above your place in her life: making new friends, meeting new friends, doing fun things… she is moving away from the relationship with you, not toward it. And nothing to do with money.

I think this relationship is dying. What do you think and feel at this time?

anita