Dear flyby:

It is my certain belief that the fact that X treats Y poorly it is not an indication that Y is lacking value. This is most important for me to deliver to you, this conviction of mine.

X treats Y poorly because X is not a decent person. As the indecent person that X is, he values people who represent for him what he does value. And this is the point: X values some things, for example money. So if Z has lots of money, X will value Z. If W is financially broke, X will not value W.

X may value being rejected because as a child (this is an example, throwing possibilities around), X was rejected by his mother and his lifetime aim has been to please a difficult to please woman, representing his mother. So X will value a woman who gives him little to no attention and will not value a woman that is very available to him.

The list of what X may value can go on and on, and so he values the person who carries that value that he holds in high esteem, money, hard-to-please, good looks, certain nationality or race, a last name, someone submissive, someone aggressive, etc. etc.

If Y devalues herself, X might like it very much and when Y stands up for herself, X may leave as X values shyness, “I am less than you” stance.

And depends who is available. Most people are still looking for someone, so depending on what woman is available, what is on the menu, what is available. Choice then is limited to what is available.

What do you think?

anita