I know exactly how you feel. It’s frustrating to work so hard, and watch others slack-off. You have an excellent work ethic, and that’s great! But you can’t expect everyone to live-up to your high standards. You know that. I recently had a similar chat about this with an old friend. This all comes down to your expectations. You have high expectations of yourself, and others as a result. I’ve struggled with similar issues. I think the only way to handle this is to accept that in one way or another, you are flawed, too., and other people have to deal with those flaws. As with your judgement issues, maybe that makes you unpleasant to work with? I don’t know, but I can’t imagine it’s be too nice to work with someone scouring in resent at me because they’ve chosen to take on my work, too. Whatever your flaws are, rest assure … You have them. We all do. Remaining mindful that others have to tolerate something about you, sort-of kicks yourself off of your own pedestal.

That sounds bad, but the intention here is to demonstrate the significance of humility. The main thing is you recognize it’s a problem, and want to resolve it. You’re setting yourself for perpetual disappointment, because no matter where you go or what you do….you will find more of the same. Stephen Hawking said something along the lines of, “it’s all right to make mistakes, without them we would not exist”. It was the imperfect aftermath of the Big Bang that lead to our existence, so he was speaking in very real terms of scientific study – not Confucius-like philosophy.

So, go easy on yourself, first. Once you’ve mastered that, than you can go easier on others. This has everything to do with you. Learn to laugh at how silly we become when we take things so seriously. Imagine a check-out girl acting as if she doesn’t get all the lipstick stocked behind the shelf in five minutes the world would end, and takes it out on her co-workers for not being the same. It’s silly. Instead, it’s much more fun to make it a game….life is very much a game.

I hope this helps.