not sure I like the word agitate, anita.
Please don’t advise me to have a showdown with this guy.
I don’t want it to be a win/lose scenario. (and not just because I would probably lose 🙂 )
The challenge for me is to stay mature, calm and not react to anything he says or anything I hear about him from another sibling.
In some ways I’d like to just sever our relationship altogether. Now that sounds drastic and it isn;’t practical as I still have to negotiate him in family reunions.
I disagree with everything he stands for now: which is “reputation, reputation, reputation”. he worships the God of being well-thought of. Actually I find him boring to talk to.
Oops slipping into vitriol mode.

• This reply was modified 9 years, 4 months ago by jock.

I don’t think actual confrontation is appropriate in this case. Kind of melodramatic and may have reached the stage where we just don’t see eye to eye anymore. Confrontation might be worth it if we both wanted to be closer pals, (which is what we almost were at one stage, except he had the upper hand). I think you need an excuse for a showdown. “Hey Jackass, can I have a few words with you? We need to talk?” Like the boss calling you into his office. 🙂