Hmm…that makes no sense at all

Nish,

I am very bad at giving kind answers usually. So here it goes – you are only 24, got rejected twice in real terms (the other 2 wanted to steal your money, so crooks don’t count)

You cite reasons like your weight and complexion for your problems. You say that it’s your external appearance that’s wrong but truth is, you don’t see your own value. How do you expect anyone else to notice it?

Do you honestly believe that your ideal girl will be obsessed with looks?

On very basic level, a girl wants a responsible guy, who treats her well and has his shit together in his life. I have friends who are short, dark, fat etc and they still found a partner. The reason is they never let these things get to them. One of my previous boyfriends wasn’t good looking at all but damn, he had this calm confidence about him – he knew his flaws and owned them.

Everyone gets out of shape and non-pretty over time. People age. This superficial nonsense can get you only so far.

So please stop pitying yourself. Start seeing what’s good in you.

You had the will power to lose 25 KGS – dude, how many people have that much patience? You are willing to look at your flaws. Most people don’t, they blame others.

There is much good in you but you need to get out of this inferiority complex. Why must you ask strangers here if you are worthy of love?

Why does our opinion really matter?

Its your opinion that really matters.

Talk to someone professionally regarding this inferiority complex. Even a free therapist from yourdost would be a good start.

Nish, don’t let two rejections make you reject your life or yourself.

Regards
Nina

PS – I apologise for being harsh.