Hello everyone, my names jacob and i have a good friend of mine who is very close and dear to me. we have been mates since we were 2.5 years old. When he was a kid he was very active, very social and very happy go lucky, everyone liked him. It seemed as if know one has a bad thing to say about him. he has a great loving family and by no means in any way was disadvantaged.

He moved away when he was 16 and was gone for 11 years, he came in just before his birthday in Feb this year. we stayed in touch over the years, thanks to facebook etc, so we still had a great freindship when he came back. it was like he never left.

But, he told me, hes been struggling with Bipolar 2 and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I have done so much research on this, i cant say i understand but what i do understand is it is affecting his life to unlimited measure.

he has no regard or care for himself or his own future. He is living with his grandma and has been since feb this year (not that this is a sign of failure, it was his only choice when moving back). He is claiming Centerlink Payments (unemployment benefits) because he cannot work or hold down a job.

Now i know these sorts of things are quite common and i understand, when you have had enough you have had enough. But its much more than that. He wont brush his teeth, clean anything, his room is a mess, he doesnt wash his clothes and he eats minimally if not at all on most days. He alwayse looks like he is sick and he told me his sleep has completely reversed in a matter of days.

I watch him when he doesnt realise just to suss him out, i can see in him that when hes watching tv, hes not just watching tv, you can almost see the cog wheels churning around in his head. Hes been on many different medications and has been seeing psychologists/counsellors ever since we was a kid.

I try to think of depression as a point system. based on what your common ground and expectations are. for example, 10 points your a generally happy person, but when you lose something or something happens, you take a few of those points off. Of course as this progresses he just got worse and worse. Thats when he decided to see someone and started getting treatment.

Apparently the treatment started 5 years ago, the meds dont really get him going more than a couple months maybe. What i mean by that is, he seems happy and working towards things, fix’s his body clock and starts having square meals a day. But then as time goes on he says he feels things happening in his brain, like things are changing. Things start to get to him more, loud noises, small daily frustrations etc.

As a result of what seems to be crippling mental health and the cycles of Bipolar 2. He has completely given up. Hes unemployed, 27 years old and lives with his grandma.

The things that i have noitced is, he wont prepare his meals, he will just graze if he does eat at all. and its useually terrible food. Now it doesnt take a doctor to realise that you need to change these things in order to get better. But i see him trying, he try’s to go down the shop, do the shopping, cook some meals etc. But it gets really hard for him and he cant maintain it.

Im very worried about him. He said the other day when we were in deep conversation, that the only reason he is still alive is because of his family and the respect he has. He really understands how devastating that would be to his friends and family.

Its such a bizzar occasion has his parents are quite well off, extremely supportive of his passion for music and electronic music production. also when he was playing sports etc.

He litterally does not care about himself at all. I know he would jump at any opportunity to help anyone. hes the kind of guy that would call the owner of a lost dog found wandering around the streets aimlessly.

He just tries to take control over his life but apparently over the past few years he has completely given up.

I have no idea what to do. hes such a great guy with heaps of potential but he just thinks he is doomed because he keeps trying to make changes but it all gets too much for him. Even small steps like cooking once or twice a week.

recently i have noticed hes been quite reckless, he made a 30 min trip in like 20 mins. he said he was diong 120km pretty much the whole way. he hardly sleeps and he has resorted to weed, meth, extacy, speed, ketamine, acid. Im not one to judge as i have experimented as well. Looks hes no addict, he would never steal from anyone and he hardly smokes meth or does those “harsh” drugs anymore, except for the weed, that is now a daily “wake and bake” situation. hes stoned all day every day. But he has litterally given up and doesnt care about himself, telling his parents to give up on helping him and that he wants to go somewhere, where knowone will worry about him, where he doesnt have to do anything.

from what i can gather from this is, he says he wont kill himself, but he surely doesnt want to live anymore.

sorry this was so long but i needed to put in as much info as i possibly could to help him.

Thank you very much for your time in reading this it is much appreciated.