I’m so sorry! I know how it feels to go through a breakup. It literally feels like your life is coming to an end, no matter how the relationship was and how the person treated you. I’ve just lost my husband of twenty years to another woman. I don’t want him back because I can never trust him again but right in the beginning of the breakup, I begged for him to come back. I tried everything to win him back but nothing worked. Then one day, I realised that he wasn’t good for me anymore and that I was better off without a hurtful relationship. That if I really loved myself, I would only find someone who respects me and cherishes me. It’s still difficult and some days I’m lonely, but I’m getting stronger. Give yourself time. Join a Facebook support group, find some friends who can listen to you and do things with you. Be easy on yourself. Pamper yourself. Everything doesn’t have to be done today. You may feel tired a lot. Cry a lot. You may battle to sleep. Don’t judge yourself or expect yourself to suddenly snap out of it. Be compassionate and give yourself time to grieve and then to heal. Time is a healer, but it takes a different amount of time for each individual. And be prepared for the five stages of grief to hit you at different times in no specific order – denial, bargaining, anger, grief, and then acceptance. The first four will fade and the last one will become stronger. If you really feel desperate, please talk to someone – call a hotline or meet with a therapist or even call a friend in the middle of the night.

Praying you find your way through the maze of grief and pain and find a better life. I’m learning things about myself that are wonderful. I’m growing as a person. Yes, I wish it never happened but I’ll be a better person after all of this.

You didn’t deserve to be treated like this. You are worthy and beautiful and one day, I hope you find someone who treasures you and doesn’t treat you like a possession they can just throw away.