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  • October 15, 2016 at 9:34 am #118242
    sophie
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    Hi,

    This could be a very stupid and pathetic question.

    We ended our relationship of 1.8 years due to our differences.
    It ended on a good term and we talked/hugged and that was it. We agreed that we could totally remain friends.
    I have no hard feeling or any type of feelings for him but wish him good luck. Probably, the reason why I am like this is because I knew a year ago that this cannot be a long term relationship so I knew that this will end sooner or later.

    We broke up on Thursday and He texted me on Friday. We exchanged a few texts but that’s about it.It’s been 2 weeks since then, and no text/call. I wouldn’t do it either.

    I’d like to remain friends with him.
    We do have HBO go acct… He has it and I shared it. I don’t have a cable and I’d still like to use his acct and I would love to split the cost. I just don’t have anyone who has a cable. ugh…
    Is it too bad that I reach out for this? Also, I’d like to remain friends with him just to support each other as friends, which also we agreed when we broke up. I am not sure how he feels about it… so I am hesitant to reach out to him first to see how he is doing.. Also I don’t want him to misunderstand that I want to get back with him or anything.

    Any thoughts? Anyone who remains friends with ex?

    BTW, He initiated a break up and I agreed on it.

    • This topic was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by sophie.
    October 15, 2016 at 11:33 am #118249
    Nikki
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    Trying to remain friends with an ex is difficult especially if it isn’t reciprocated; I’ve come to notice this recently on my own. I’m noticing they don’t want to relive what they have chosen to let go and it only can really work if you have both accepted it’s truly over. In my heart I want to believe he will come back even though I ended it.

    We were at a part of our relationship where he was rebuilding his life after ending a 10 year marriage and no longer really knew who he was anymore, nor did he really understand who I was, but I still loved him regardless of it. We emailed one another and spoke one day, but I haven’t heard from him since. I want to know he is still there thinking about me, missing me, wanting me to be there. I want to understand why it’s so easy to just let me go.

    I have friends that remain cordial with their exes, but what I’ve seen is that they both tend to have a mature understanding as well a certain level of selfishness that allows them to do so.

    Even though there is no response I still send him emails; I want him to know I still care cause it helps me.

    We were all burden with the curse of being born to love and cursed to feel that makes this even harder than ever imagined.

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