Hi Bob!
It sounds like you’re doing some good work. That you’re willing to confront these emotions speaks for itself.
I find that emotions and thoughts are linked. If you know of the topic that the emotion is linked to it can be easier to root out. When I’m avoiding my emotions, I find that acknowledging the cause is helpful. Then I comfort myself and tell myself it is okay to feel this way.
I hope this helps!
I have some additional thoughts on the topic of letting emotions go. Buddhism has some interesting ideas about it.
One recommendation that I found helpful was to focus on the feeling and sensations of emotions in the body and relax. Their belief is that only the original thought linked to the emotion matters. Rumination aka any thoughts following are considered to be unimportant, not useful or even false.
I’m curious to hear your thoughts.