fbpx
Menu

Dating in your 20's and drinking

Home→Forums→Relationships→Dating in your 20's and drinking

New Reply
Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • May 28, 2017 at 1:21 am #150938
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    hi!

    So im not a huge drinker. I have my moments, but I can go months without thinking about alcohol.

     

    Now, I’m in my late 20’s and I have been dating a man in his late 20’s. He hasn’t really grown out of the college drinking phase. He didn’t drink in high school.

     

    I am concerned. I am not sure what I’m dealing with here….if I’m dealing with a guy who likes to have fun…a high functioning alocholic…or what. But I am concerned.

     

    I know alcoholics tend tend to hide their drinking rather well if confronted about it, so I am trying to keep my concerns about his drinking on the DL.

    what should I look out for? Any pointers on how to handle this better? I personally know soooooo many people who binge drink and have it as a rather large part of their life, so I’m a little confused if this is normal 20’s culture that will phase out or if he has a dependancy.

     

    Thanks

    Samantha

    May 28, 2017 at 10:43 am #150972
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Samantha:

    As you continue to date him, observe him. You can even create a Word Document and take notes, if you want. Document and study his alcohol related behavior. After a period of time, evaluate.

    There are many definitions people use for “alcoholic”. Some go for the can’t-stop-until-blacking-out and others think of themselves as lifetime alcoholics because at times, ten years before, they got drunk and acted irresponsibly. And so, I would not trust the term “alcoholic” used for oneself or another: I would ask the person identifying such: what does it mean to you?

    If you observe and study your boyfriend’s alcohol related behavior you can learn such things as: does he drink and drive, does he black out and do (what) when unconscious? Is he able to successfully achieve his goals, get and keep employment? And so much more.

    anita

  • Author
    Posts
Viewing 2 posts - 1 through 2 (of 2 total)

You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Please log in OR register.