Emotional abuse and why can't I let go

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September 8, 2016 at 11:55 am #114648

Emily
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I haven’t spoken to my brother as yet he’s at work a lot and then with his family on the night I don’t want to intrude on his life I feel I can only speak to him when I’m out of this situation because I’m embarrassed at what I’ve become .

September 8, 2016 at 2:15 pm #114662

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Dear sugarhut:

So you don’t want to do #1 and you don’t believe #2 can take place. You want to exit the relationship but you are scared.

This is why you need help- you need someone to help you exit the relationship. Maybe your brother after all?

If you do reach out to your brother, make sure that you will follow through the whole way. If you trust yourself that once you tell your brother you need his help, and once he helps you exit the relationship, that you will STAY outside the relationship, no matter what- then you already started to become the person you will be proud being: proud and free.

anita

September 9, 2016 at 4:24 am #114705
Miarbil
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Dear Sugarhut,

You are not a weak person, Trust me its not easy to detach from a narcissistic abuse( İ,m not an expert but). I have been there. and most empathetic people find it hard to detach. I can give you one advice. when you get time and when you are relatively calm just go for a walk or somewhere where you feel calm and talk to yourself. Ask your self why am I here. what am I getting from this relationship? what can I do better and with out judging yourself or feeling shame just let the answers come to you. Take it slow one day at a time make small changes. and I hope he wont be physically abusive if ever you decide to leave.
But one thing I will tell you Dont make plans thinking he will change because things may escalate to something worse and they usually do. I cried asking myself the same question as you why i stay in a hurtful relationship but that is the first step of stepping out. so congratulations you are one step closer to the solution. İ will pray for you and Please please dont be so hard on your self. Just start slow and take out one small toxic thing from your life and another and another. Read peoples stories and find courage! İt is scary to step into the unknown but the universe will reward you for being true to yourself and stepping out of whats not serving you. xx
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