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  • January 13, 2016 at 12:17 pm #92372
    Zainab
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    Hi!
    I am new here. I’m 16 about to be 17 in a a month.I am about to finish school and go to college, in our country college is like high school and then its university.
    I used to be a quiet person, I believe I am not so any more. People have always thought of me as person who is very serious, mature and this annoys me. Sometimes I am afraid of doing certain things because often I would get the reaction “she’s doing that”. I feel that I’m not very confident. I don’t take part in dramas,dances, debates and elocutions that much mostly because I think I can’t do it, sometimes I never even try. And now school is ending and other people my age from different schools have had so much more exposurr. I am afraid at the same time I believe going into a new environment will give me the opportunity to do things without being judged.

    January 13, 2016 at 1:47 pm #92390
    Ladybug
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    Hi Zainab,
    I was the “quiet and serious one” in high school as well. First off, there’s nothing wrong with that. Sometimes people don’t know how to react around people who are quiet and serious which makes them uncomfortable, leading them to say rude things. That said, you are not just the “the quiet and serious one”. You are so much more than that. I’m sure in your life you have been funny, loud,… We are so much more than a label. Perhaps to gain more confidence do something you haven’t done before like you said go to a dance, do debates…but do them because YOU want to; not because of the pressure of others doing it. I hope this helps:)

    January 13, 2016 at 6:27 pm #92443
    Anonymous
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    Dear Zainab:

    It seems to me that you are like a bird that did not yet spread its wings, a bird that needs to spread its wings and FLY!

    A bird in a little cage, serious, quiet but not because quiet and serious is who you are.

    Maybe you are loud and child like and emotional and spontaneous, you just never had the chance to express all this, to BE who you really are.

    People in your home, family judged you negatively when you were those things, so you tried to accommodate their expectations and you shut yourself in that cage.

    You are hoping that in a different environment, away from your family, away from their judgments… the cage of their judgements.. you will be able to spread your wings and fly!

    Am I correct?
    anita

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