After a recent long-distant relationship ended (via phone), I never received closure.

I was the one who ended the relationship, however, I had contemplated for the longest time beforehand if it was truly the right decision or if we would be able to work things out because I did truly love this person. I had spent time writing down my feelings and weighing the pros and cons of our relationship. I reflected upon if I was truly happy in the relationship or if I was holding on to something that would never change. Throughout the relationship, he put in little effort and we discussed this several times. I found myself to be holding on to “false expectations.” All I heard was “talk” but there wasn’t any action. Communication was also lacking, and I believe that this is vital in any healthy relationship.

By not getting any closure, I mean that this person didn’t have anything to say to me. I clearly expressed the reasons why I wanted to end the relationship(and since we have had this discussion before, it was nothing that was sudden or surprising.) I did wish him the best and I sincerely meant it. I was extremely upset because he didn’t have anything kind to say in return. Perhaps, because I felt comfort of being in a relationship and I’ve never really known what it was like to be in a healthy one(which obviously, this wasn’t.) Then, I ask myself, “Why would I stay in something that truly does not bring me happiness?” and “How can I love someone who didn’t treat me well?”

It has been a few months since it ended. I would say that I am over him, but I am having a hard time letting go of something that just wasn’t meant to be. Especially, when he didn’t have anything to say. How can a person say that they love you if they didn’t even fight to keep you? There is absoluetly no chance that we would ever get back together, or even speak again. Nor would I want to after the way this went. I guess what I’m asking is how do I accept things that I cannot change?