Hello all,

I get the best advice on here from blogs and these forums that I thought I’d try with this.

I have been dating someone for about 2 years now. I know he would never cheat on me, or even close to it but now that I’ve started to fall in love I have this constant paranoia that he is. Every time his phone goes off I think it’s a woman or I think he likes someone if he follows them on instagram. I always eventually correct myself to know that I should trust him because he has never once given me a reason not to, but anytime I see him on his phone the thought comes up again.

as for other relationships it’s been the same thing. I would eventually ruin those relationships by breaking it off because I had a “feeling” they were with someone else just because of social media or making up scenerios in my head

my father did cheat on my mother when I was a kid and it led to divorce. I assume that’s a big reason why but as I got older I got over it. I learned that my mother wasn’t happy in the relationship, didn’t talk or appreciate him anymore and they both have admitted their wrongs so I don’t see why that would affect my life in my 20’s

i guess I’m just not sure why I am like this, and scared it will affect all of my relationships now and in the future. I don’t want to be the non-trusting girlfriend either while I’m keeping it inside and driving myself crazy, or be the girlfriend who is constantly accusing.

Thanks for anyone that reads this!