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  • April 19, 2017 at 6:12 am #145789
    ananya
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    1.  I had been in a relationship for a year wid a guy but we regularly had fights and one day i came to know about his ex which he was hiding nd he had been cheating me. I couldn’t let go of him at dat tym.our fights continued but we loved each oder too.for my birthday he sent me beautiful gifts made by him nd it was very adorable but on my birthday itself i fell for another guy nd thought of brkup wid my bf… But cudnt.  ..but after 20 days again there was a huge fight between me nd bf because of d odr guy… Nd he told me such nasty things dat i wanted to nd attempted suicude…… But thn the odr guy frm dat itself took care of me…. Alott.  .nd then we came into relationship …but my ex didn’t give me up. ..he wanted me back… But i was soooo.. Angry dat i didnt.. Return back nd now its five months….. Of brkup… But still i i miss him alot nd…. I feel now dat i shud have given him another chance rather than suddenly getting into a conclusion…. But now i can’t do dat because im in another relationship…. Nd i cant make another person cry… Because of my selfish atittude…. I feel d worst now….nd i couldn’t even ask for sorryy… Because it wudnt mean nothing….
    April 19, 2017 at 9:59 am #145853
    Anonymous
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    Dear anaya:

    It was not wrong for you to fall in love with another guy. We are not guilty for how we feel. Our feelings happen automatically: we don’t choose them. We cannot be guilty of what we don’t choose.

    And no wonder you fell for another guy: you and the boyfriend before had lots of fights. Fights are distressing. Also, he cheated on you- that is distressing too. No wonder you looked for comfort, for calm, with another guy.

    Your ex boyfriend is 100% responsible for cheating on you. And he is 50% responsible for the fights you had. He chose to cheat on you and he chose to fight. Naturally we enjoy or suffer consequences of what we choose to do.

    You are not responsible for his choices and the consequences of his choices. Focus on your new relationship, hope it is fight-free, loving and healthy. Let the old boyfriend live his life and you- live your own.

    anita

    April 19, 2017 at 8:39 pm #145927
    ananya
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    Thanku anita mam.  .for the advice… It is really a difficult tym fr me… Because all the guilts were overcoming my present…but now because of ur beautiful lines…. I feel stress free.. Thanku mam

    April 19, 2017 at 8:48 pm #145929
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, anaya. Post anytime.

    anita

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