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  • September 24, 2015 at 4:39 pm #84042
    Jonn
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    This is my first post here I rarely post on forums I normally just grab the info from them. My name is Jonn, I live with my parents, and I’m lazy as ****. EVERYTHING IS MY OWN DOING, I reap what I sow. Ages 8-18 my parents gave me everything… I lived Computers / consoles constantly not only on the internet but on games (MMORPGS) (FPS). I enjoy only two things, “internet” and “welding”. I moved (with parents) to an extremely remote area of california. Mom is 65 dad is 66, they have been wanting to divorce eachother for three years my grandmother on my mother’s side has just gone through a double heart valve replacement she turns 90 on Halloween. 50 miles away from any service, I struggle with no drivers license my mother has turned VERY angry at anyone and everyone.she has NO patients, no understanding, not the person I knew. I’m finding it difficult to leave, my love for my family, my fear of being along, I can get my license theres just noone to teach me to drive they are too busy. I feel so trapped here, literally no where Togo for miles.

    September 24, 2015 at 5:22 pm #84046
    jock
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    tough situation I admit welding
    First it seems you are blaming yourself as you use capitals.
    It’s not all your fault at all but here are some things I would do if in your situation:
    – get some discipline into your daily life, wake up, do some exercises, maybe pray or meditate (too weird?), read some positive stuff (I prefer books to the net. You might want to visit the local library)
    -watch your nutrition, fruit and veges?
    -visit a local GP doctor and tell him your story
    -contact some lifeline/social services nearest your house
    -borrow some money for abus trip to a nearby city and spend a day lookingat jobs and the vibe (can I live here?)

    You are going to make some tough decisions soon. If possible ask to borrow 5000 bucks from your parents(possible?). Tell them you want to go to a big city and find a job and be independent)
    And finally get some other advice besides mine… 🙂

    September 24, 2015 at 7:31 pm #84060
    Jonn
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    I really regret not getting off my *** earlier when I had people at my trade school willing to help me get my license. I have moved from playing games to studying arithmatic to keep occupied. All I need is my drivers license and I can finally move myself onwards.

    September 24, 2015 at 7:33 pm #84063
    Jonn
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    By the way jack thank you for spending the time to reply.

    September 24, 2015 at 9:15 pm #84074
    jock
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    Seems like you’re still very emotional so hard to plan anything wisely in that state. (in my opinion)
    Make sure you plan when you feel calm and clear-headed.
    Getting car licence is important I agree but for me personally not number 1 priority. If you can go to a city with good public transport infrastructure, you might not need it so urgently. However, the city I live in now in Australia, has moderate public transport system and some jobs just wouldn’t be available to me if I didn’t have a car. So in that sense, getting a licence is an investment/necessity to finding work.
    Suggest to your parents you need money to pay for driving lessons? (you’d have to get them in the city I imagine,)

    September 27, 2015 at 10:58 am #84215
    Anonymous
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    Hi there. Firstly, Im sorry for what’s happening with for family. As we go through life, obstacles occur when we least expect them, and can lead to many changes,some of which hurt us. Do NOT put yourself down. You are still here, alive. There are people who struggle day by day to just breath. So feel thankful for that and remind yourself that you are only human. Mistakes will be made and there will be regrets, and this goes for everyone. I feel your pain with abandoning your family and living in your own. I’m 17, and the thought if leaving my family scares me. But we all have to leave the nest at some point and throw our selves into the real world. But, I believe that you should first talk to your parents. Your mom seems stressed, and I’m sure any ounce of love can make a difference in her behavior. Let her know how you feel when she gets angry. Sometimes we do things without realizing how they affect others until we are called out on it. Then, remind her of how much you love her, and thank her for all she has given and done for you. Do the same with your father. Be sure to show your grandmother love as well. She has gone through a lot, and I’m sure that hearing from her grandson will make her very happy. Also, try searching for jobs and places where you can live. Doing this will get you on your way to becoming more independent and living on your own, and you CAN do it.

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