@Ava

Sorry to hear about the current circumstances you are in. I have never been in this position before, but i hope i can give some suggestions.
As much as it’s enjoyable learning new things is, if it becomes so disruptive that it’s causing problems and impacted your life so perversely than you need to question the benefits of it at all. A lot of the time, when i have worked with others, the bonds i have with others that i work with, make the job enjoyable, not the other way around. When my mentors left where i worked, i realized that it was pointless staying since they were the reason i stayed to begin with. Maybe it’s like your situation? Because this issue is really affecting your self-esteem, confidence to perform and depressing you. Maybe speak to who is in charge and state (calmly) that unless you’re respected as a worker, than you will have to consider your future. No matter what happens, just be calm and know that you can walk out of that place whenever you want. That’s the power you have. Always remember you have power, it may not seem like it now, but everyone has power to change what they don’t like, that’s your right. you own your body and mind, not others. The fact that your professional life is bleeding into your personal one, means you need to evaluate what is more important to you. Which can you not live without? And i know that you need to and want to support your family, but you can’t do that if your emotional hurting all the time.
I hope this was some what helpful, i can’t help feeling hopeless in this situation. I wish you the best. Good luck.

Ava,
I’m glad you are glad. 🙂 Always remember you have power, you are never helpless. I truly wish you the best.

Hi Ava,

Hope you are keeping strong. In a business environment perhaps you need to think a little more strategically. Asking key questions like – Why are you still there, What is in it for you and where will it take you? Often you can handle the heat a little better once you have clarified this.

Prospect: Think about the benefits, if you do stay. You say you are learning a lot. Is this useful (or useless) for your CV? Perhaps you want to stay longer with the aim to learn more and then find another/better position in the same/other company? Is there room for growth, a raise or both? What (evidence or experience) is required to move on to other jobs or get a raise? Once you have thought about this or have questions, telling your bosses what you desire or expect can help, if you reckon they are considerate. In this way the conversation is ‘less emotional’ but more performance oriented, which they might prefer.

Perhaps you even want to set a time-scale or review milestone for when you might want to make a change in working life. When identifying what you want out of the current situation and for how long, it therefore becomes a conscious decision about why you choose this for yourself and the family, rather than something that is just ‘happening to you’. Herein, the impact on family life will also be ‘agreed’ instead of unexpected.

Workload – I don’t know your line of work, so the following could be useless advice 🙂 if you are a perfectionist and care about the work/people. Seek opportunities when you can produce ‘just good enough’. This means you will spend less time ‘perfecting’ when the ‘sheen’ is ‘nice to have’ and not required, of course still maintain the best level of accuracy. Abstracted, a similar approach can be applied with choosing how you emotionally invest in your co-workers to save your energy in general and for family.

Cheers