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  • February 22, 2017 at 10:02 am #128849
    GC
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    Hi all, i’m new here.

    Been struggling with life these past few months and it seems nothing is working out for me no matter how i try.
    The company i was working in closed in Oct last year and i have not been able to find a job till now. I’ve been having to resort to driving Uber to pay the bills. I’m 38 and never married.
    Last week me and my gf for 7 months broke up. She found out she was pregnant and immediately decided to go for an abortion. Me being the hot headed fool i was, said we should break up. I wanted to have a future with her. Our relationship is characterized by lots of arguments – Me not trusting her due to her past, even though she didnt do anything wrong in our relationship. She getting drunk and picking fights with me for nothing and us saying shit we dont mean when we get mad and argue.
    Now she’s super cold and hostile towards me, despite my attempts at a reconciliation, asking for her forgiveness, saying i wont say those things again. It’s come to a point where she told me her brother will accompany for the abortion next week and she is not interested in what i have to say to her.
    So you think this is the end?

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    February 22, 2017 at 10:09 am #128853
    GC
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    i’m feeling super lost now and super depressed

    February 22, 2017 at 10:50 am #128857
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    Dear sundeath:

    Reads to me like the end of this most recent relationship. If I was you, I would stop efforts to reconcile, and let her be, leave her alone to put her choice into action, next week.

    The fighting in the relationship, that aggression is the death of love. When in a relationship both parties need to practice … a zero-aggression-policy. Issues can be resolved peacefully, no matter how distressed either party feels. Practicing EAR: Empathy, Assertiveness, Respect in a relationship is very important.

    Practice EAR in your next relationship- that will take work and patience on your part and hers. Evaluating a woman before getting deep into a relationship, evaluating if she is able and willing to be non-aggressive, is most important.

    So both- be that non aggressive man in your next relationship and choose a woman who is also non-aggressive.

    Post again, anytime. Hope you feel better soon.

    * Will be back in hours.

    anita

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