My wife and I have been married nearly 20 years, we have always had a pretty good marriage, most likely because we are both pretty easy going. it seems over the last few years we have been growing apart. Most recently it seems that affection is given out of obligation rather than desire. We hold hands, and will give a brief kiss hello, good by or good night. But rarely out of the blue “just because I love you”. I personally have just not been inspired to show affection towards here, perhaps out of reluctance due to not receiving much from her. We seem to have gotten into a bit of a rut, I use to think of us as 1 but now we are 2. It use to be a given if either of us was planning something we would consult each other as we would be participating together, now we just make plans on our own and if the other is available then great we will be together if not then on our own. I guess we are starting to live or lives as individuals rather than a single unit. Any suggestions on how to regain the connection and bring the desire to love one another back into our marriage?