Dear jim:

You can experiment with it, let’s say you get on a dating site, answer the first profile and see how it feels, if it interests you, if it draws your attention or if it distresses you. Do a little of that and see how it feels then decide if it is working for you or not, but little by little. Try and decide…

Keep venting, jim, for a s long as you need to.

anita

Hi Jim,

I’m sorry for your heartache and pain and I know how you are feeling as I am still trying to make my marriage work and it doesn’t get easier.
There are times I thought my marriage has come to the end and it ripped me apart.
People say time heals and I do believe that but it gets worst before it gets better.
I am still struggling on my journey but I learned form my past hurt that I needed to let go what I couldn’t control and accept it. That is what makes it easier as you need to make peace with yourself so it is a bit easier to digest.
I wouldn’t recommend dating yet as you need to heal and figure this out on your own. I found in my times of pain that friends and talking to people helped, as this was a good support to me and it passed the days of pain for me and help me process my faults and feelings.
I am growing stronger every day and today I have come to terms that my marriage might be over and to prepare myself to walk away for good, as I don’t see him changing as we both don’t agree on what is needed to make this work and for both of us to be happy.
Sending you my thoughts and I hope you find peace with what is and remember that things come to an end in your life as something bigger and better is waiting for you!