Dear Natasha:
I like what you wrote: “even more important than (to choose your battles), to think if I really want to fight one”- fighting harms love and if you want love with Carlos, better not fight.
Thinking before you act will definitely bring some good changes into your life, I have no doubt. It doesn’t mean you will get everything you want, of course, but you have way more chances of that when you think before acting.
Practice this every day- no circumstance is too small or insignificant for this practice. Practice in small ways and you prepare yourself for the big ways.
anita