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  • April 15, 2020 at 11:37 am #349632
    Sanita
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    Hi to Everyone,

    So here’s my problem, I have a boyfriend which he is already married when I met him.

    as per his story as for the law of adopting a child he need to have a wife, so he did marry someone just for the marriage document as an evidence that he has a wife and they are not living together. They are married on paper for about 8 years now. as part of the agreement he will provide some financial things to the wife.

     

    Weve been planning for our future and so I asked him if when he will plan to file a divorce, and I got this answers.

    That he cant take advance case from his side right now to file divorce because of the ff. reason

    1. that the wife on paper is now blackmail him and ask for more financial support and will try to take the custody of the child which he cannot give and the court will be in her favor.

    2. He has a house, that the court will compensate for that

    3. and if he confess that he done all this thing just to get the child then he will be declared forging the details and will be punish by law.

    I love this man but I’m confuse right now if I need to stay with him or I need to let him go.

     

    April 15, 2020 at 12:46 pm #349706
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sanita:

    Even if he is telling the truth, it is not a good situation for you because he is legally married, and is in a troublesome relationship with his legal wife and he may be in trouble with the law.

    You are doubting that he told you all the truth you need to know (“as per his story”).

    Here is a scenario where my empathy would be with him: if he knew a child that was suffering abuse, and the only way for him to protect that child from abuse was to adopt the child..

    – do you know why he felt such a strong need to adopt this child?

    anita

    April 16, 2020 at 5:33 am #349824
    Sanita
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    Hi Anita, thank you for response.

    He adopted this child at the age of two from an orphanage. The child suffered from malnutrition and sometimes it is not fed enough. He visited weekly the orphanage and when he knew that this child will be transferred to another orphanage which is far from him, then he made a decision to formally adopt the child.

    He provided everything for the child, he is really trying to be good father for this child.

    and since the child is already 10 yrs old, so he approach his contracted wife to file for the divorce, then that’s the only time he found out that this woman is demanding for more.

     

    April 16, 2020 at 7:08 am #349836
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sanita:

    If I understand correctly he is not living with the woman he is legally married to, and he and his child have been living together for 8 years. If this is the case, I would think that a conscientious court of family law will not separate a child from his father and have the child live with a woman who is a stranger to the child.

    What do you think?

    I hope he sees a competent attorney so to understand his situation better. Maybe he already did (?)

    If there really is a danger for his 10 year old to be separated from his father because of this woman’s anger regarding him divorcing her, then he shouldn’t divorce her before his child turns 18 or so and is legally free to choose where he/she wants to live. Do you agree or disagree?

    anita

     

     

    April 18, 2020 at 3:43 am #350168
    Sanita
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    thanks Anita, actually im not bothered with the child custody because I know court will favor on the father side.

    Some thing lighten me up and its really up to me if im going to stay or not in this kind of relationship.

    April 18, 2020 at 6:36 am #350180
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, Sanita. It is up to you if you stay in this situation; your choice. Post again anytime.

    anita

     

     

     

     

     

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