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  • August 30, 2016 at 7:18 am #113714
    anon heartbroken
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    Hi everyone,

    Thank you so much for making this such a wonderful and safe place to share feelings. I’ve been devastated ever since my fiance broke up with me 10 days back.

    A few months back, he had e-gifted me a spa voucher worth around $100. I’m leaving this city this week permanently and I just realized that I would need to use the spa voucher in the next 3 days – if I wanted to. But some part of me doesn’t want to use his gift. I’m stuck between my emotions (don’t use the spa voucher and let it expire) and my logic (use the spa voucher because it is expensive). Can someone please help me out with what to do? 🙁

    Thank you very much.

    August 30, 2016 at 8:02 am #113716
    Anonymous
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    Dear breakinupbad:

    If you would enjoy the spa visit, using the e-gift, then if I was you, I’d use it. The relationship is over and this voucher is just a voucher for a spa visit. It is like leftover food- if it is still good and you’d enjoy it, why throw it away?

    anita

    August 30, 2016 at 8:39 am #113721
    Anonymous
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    The spa voucher isn’t expensive. It is worthless, because you don’t want to use it. Throw it away and forget about it, this is the last thing you need to be worrying about.

    August 30, 2016 at 10:25 am #113731
    Christopher Binder
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    Can you give the voucher to someone else to enjoy? I understand why you wouldn’t want to use it, but maybe someone else could get some joy out of it.

    August 30, 2016 at 3:10 pm #113773
    anon heartbroken
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    Thank you all for your replies. As monklet80 said, it is actually the last thing I need to be worrying about but I think my mind is trying to cope by finding some “fixable” problems. I tried following your advice nori, and I went to open the e-gift voucher page but suddenly felt such a terrible heartache. Unfortunately I think I’m starting to realize that I won’t be able to use it even if I want to – anita, I wish I were a stronger person who could separate emotions from the logic of just using up a voucher.

    August 30, 2016 at 4:31 pm #113778
    Anonymous
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    You are welcome, breakinupbad. I suppose if the logic to use the voucher was that it is expensive, then I wouldn’t use it either. I thought you’d enjoy the spa visit, actually enjoy the treatment there. If you did, then it would make logical and emotional sense to use it. It would be an act of self care.
    anita

    August 30, 2016 at 8:26 pm #113792
    VJ
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    Dear breakinupbad,

    How about a change in perception to view it?

    “A few months back, he had e-gifted me a spa voucher worth around $100”

    He gifted you the expensive voucher out of love and that was a few months back. Was it a time when he gave it to you out of true love (not sure how things were between you guys but assuming that you guys were loving to each other)? Was it a time when he gifted it to you out of genuine feelings?

    It is you who waited till today and did not use the voucher given a few months back. If you too get that feeling then you may as well make use of it.

    VJ.

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