• Good for you! It is a process, to be sure. But I’m glad you’re starting to see positive results for your efforts. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and enjoy watching your kids grow up. You can do it because you are doing it. Happiness happens.

  • If your children feel the loss of contact, that is very understandable. If you choose to require that your children have no contact with family, or only contact at the family’s homes and not your own—it really is up to you and their father to make that important decision. I do know, however, it’s really hard to stop seeing family without plans…[Read more]

  • I am sorry this whole thing is putting you through the emotional wringer. I am not a wise, practical, or sensible person in many ways, but when I feel like my personal experiences can perhaps offer insight…I try to share.

    I have a friend with thyroid issues, and she said for years it made it hard for her to find peace and happiness as a…[Read more]

  • Thanks for the book recommendation! I hadn’t heard of it before. I sure could have used something like that twenty years ago. But it’s never too late for good information.

  • Hi! It’s always fun to run across a fellow Asperger’s person! Asperger’s means I have a hard time trying to make what I see fit with what other’s WANT me to see. I didn’t always know how much autism can make it easy for con artists and abusers to manipulate me. I’ve had to learn some HARD lessons. I’d like to recommend to you the book…[Read more]

  • Sara replied to the topic is there hope? in the forum Relationships 3 months, 1 week ago

    I have always struggled with interpersonal relationships and personal confidence. My mother has some pretty serious emotional issues that she took out on me as a little kid, so when I make friends I can always hear her voice in my head saying, “They’re only being nice to you because they want to use your bike.” This nonsense makes it tough to be…[Read more]

  • Sara replied to the topic Blindsided by breakup in the forum Relationships 3 months, 1 week ago

    I think Anita’s advice is well-worth listening to. He’s putting a lot of energy into what looks to be a huge smokescreen. You are describing your actions with great remorse. That’s normal when you make an honest mistake and inadvertantly hurt somebody you love. Slamming somebody with platitudes about how they can no longer trust you… right…[Read more]

  • I don’t know if I have any wisdom or practical financial advice to give, but I very much understand feelings of frustration and disappointment over health issues. Dentistry is so expensive! It is really important, though!!! The bacteria that live in a sick mouth can make the rest of you quite ill. It can even do serious harm to your heart. I…[Read more]

  • I’m sorry you are missing your friend and hurting by the way he is currently treating you. I’m a little embarrassed to say I once behaved the way your friend did. I was in a very high stress job that took ALL of my energy to perform. My mentor hit a point where she decided enough was enough. She left and I was given the “opportunity” to fill…[Read more]

  • You are being a good sister and a good daughter. Continue letting your sister know that you are there for her. Showing her you care, and showing her that happiness can be found is a lot better than telling or lecturing. Parents make mistakes and those are things you can’t fix for them. You can love them, you can do your best to thrive, and…[Read more]

  • I’m so sorry you lost your dog. It is really normal to find a million ways to blame yourself. I really get it. My dog, my bunny, and two of my horses all suddenly passed away this past year from events described by friends, family, and veterinarians as “freak accidents”. I feel cursed. The thing is with your dog, in order to love your dog and…[Read more]

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