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    Susanna
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    Hello July 🙂

    Are you currently in France, and when does term start? If you could stay at friends/family and not commit to renting an apartment long term, maybe its worth considering seeing how uni goes for a few weeks and see how much you like it?

    Now I’m at uni, missing people is just part of life. It’s bearable and it’s just because I NOW HAVE MORE PEOPLE TO LOVE. If I had never gone, I would never have met all of these amazing people. I guess you might feel the same about when you moved to Australia… I don’t know, but I do know it’s ok to miss people as long as you stay in contact 🙂

    Whatever decision you make, take your time and don’t feel rushed or pressured into anything x x x

    #41387
    Susanna
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    In Light. It’s the energy that sustains us all 🙂

    #41386
    Susanna
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    Hey Katie,

    I didn’t want to read and leave without a comment, but I am not entirely sure I have much to say that can help you with your fresh perspective! I’m going to try my best though to give you some things to think about 😀

    I love your ideas on compassion, very inline with what I think 🙂 At the end of the day you can’t change his opinion, just as he can’t change yours. Could his opinion be something of the alpha-male ideal – he wants to be the man who doesn’t need sympathy or compassion because he can do it alone and so on, when perhaps in a really tough situation he would quite like the compassion and love you’d give him 🙂 I don’t know but something to think about maybe! I’m 21 and know that a lot of the guys I know pretend to be much more alpha-male than they really are. They think girls WANT a man who are all strong and cold emotionally!

    Your children could also benefit from a mix of perspectives in the long-term (obviously as long as they get the love and compassion they deserve and don’t witness any of the differences of opinion in the form of arguments!). Just like with the topic of developing countries and the whole ‘they should work harder vs. not their fault’ thing possibly being somewhere in the middle of your ideas (if it does have something to do with attitude it could be be both personal and environmental in nature), perhaps your differences of opinion aren’t the be-all and end-all and could always comprimise? Your children would learn that whilst it is ok to be vulnerable and that we should be empathetic of people, we also shouldn’t compromise our own strength and goals and we should be driven to achieve things rather than relying on sympathy. Two-sided coin AS ALWAYS in life 🙂

    At the end of the day are you happier when with him than without him? Is this worry about your friend and him causing more worry than happiness in general? Do you feel supported by him despite his views on compassion? Only you can decide how you really feel.

    Good luck Katie,

    Susanna x

    #41384
    Susanna
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    Hello Zenhen,

    I can definitely relate to your post! I know it is easier said than done but…

    I agree with what has been said above about presenting to him how you feel. If he can’t open up to you about how important this relationship is to him and show his commitment to and desire for you when your relationship is on the line, then I think you will have your answer. Relationships are about being equally, give and take. If you feel like you are supporting him and propping him up, and he isn’t doing anything back for you, he is taking advantage. You are not his mother and nor should you let him treat you as one.

    At the end of the day, sometimes you have to shut one door for the next one to open, to see opportunities and indeed people with fresh eyes and a clear mind.

    My advice in this situation is to write a list of all the things you want to do in life. Don’t even think about him or his needs when writing it. Go through it and really think; which ones would he help me to achieve? How many would he support me in doing? How many would he or the relationship STOP me from doing? He should support your dreams even if they are different to his own. Do you want to live for somebody elses dreams and goals, or you own?

    Good luck Zenhen,

    Susanna x

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