Dear PathOfPeace:
Been married six years. Very soon after I got married we started couple therapy and then I continued with individual therapy. The Healing Journey for me started five years ago and is ongoing. I am hooked on it so, no, I do not have the problem you describe because I am focused on my process, journey.
Do you think I can help you somehow, even though I am not in a similar situation with my husband as you are with your wife? If so, let me know.
anita