Dear time-to-heal:

I would like to understand better what you are asking so that I can offer you something helpful, if I can.

You wrote that this boy when you were 11 or 12 pinched you, maybe, but definitely pressed against your right breast. Is that right?

How many years ago was that/ how old are you now?

You want to know what made him do that and why he was ostracized? You feel some connection to him, that he and you have something in common because both of you were ostracized? Or had “embarrassing sexual experiences”?

Would you like to contact him and ask him about that incident? And/ or do you want him to help you understand your own “embarrassing sexual experiences”?

anita