Anita,

Our friendship spans many bridges that we have both crossed together. She has been there for me in some of my darkest days, when I had family troubles and no one to turn to… she has always had her door wide open for me. there is a different side to this friendship, one of deep trust and commitment from both sides but naturally things happen outside of the friendship that we both cant always control. My bad eating habits her drinking habits… this relationship as gone a long way. one where my maturity is sometimes stronger then hers but I never really let that determine how I treated her, like my equal. as mentioned before she did write me a long email expressing her respect, devotion and misgivings but that I have no right to judge her. this is true, i am just at a crossroads in our friendship because i dont know whether to accept her as she is an that she wont change or move on. at the end of he day, women friendships are a powerful thing and ones you want to hang on to because sometimes they are the true essence of love in the world. Aren’t we suppose to love and forgive, accept and let go? isn’t this what this site is all about? not passing judgement on someones life that we don’t know about but instead stepping in their shoes and taking a walk. I am torn because I have so much love for her but my patients has worn thin over time for her indiscretions. Is it time to let go and move on or accept and pour love into this person?
how do I go about handling it?