There is so much I want to say:

1) I hear your hopes and the investment in this relationship.
2) Sounds to me like you two truly get along and are very compatible on many many things, which is what makes this all the more confusing.
3) I have studied several kinds of relationship charts–and for certain you can have many levels of true connection that are extraordinarily authentic–but it only takes one really powerful dis-connect that can undermine the integrity of the relationship.
I feel he REALLY likes you, REALLY loves you and your children–But there is some procrastination or self delusion that keeps him from dealing in the REAL or from being able to acknowledge….”HEH, I have to make a livng and as much as Id like to be in a steady situation–I have my own uncertanties in my line of work that make it difficult to truly be able to be there for any woman much less a woman and the lives of her children.” The reason I say all this is because I want you to know YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. There was/is enough connecting you HOWEVER, there is one thread that will keep it from being a Terra Firm kind of relationship.

Some relationships are present for a reason and a season but may not have enough legs to make it long term. I went thru a break up a year ago and it helped me remember—in times of crisis or change—you find out the true character of someone, you find out what personal resources they truly possess. So job changes, death of loved ones, health matters–this is when the true character shines thru.

Dont think your self silly for being involved. He talked and allowed you to do much planning even to the point of putting down money–but for the sake of your children and your sanity-Im not seeing he can really offer much more stability then talk.

I truly offered this to be helpful. I really hope it has been. I will see you as allowing something in your life with more stability and flow for what is perfect for your and your kids.