Dear bigglasses:

The result of you being blamed repeatedly as a child, is that it did cloud your judgment, then and into adulthood. So when you are married to a man who is irresponsible, you tend to think that it is something wrong that you are doing, not him. That belief that it is always something wrong on your end, clouds your judgment so you choose the wrong man and stay with the wrong man, and then go back to the same, wrong man.

When your judgment is clouded- by you being mistreated as a child, being blamed for what was absolutely not your fault- then your ability to choose for your own benefit is impaired.

As you figure out what to do now, clear your judgment ability, re-judge. Choose now to remove from your life the wrong people and let the right people in. Your parents- they are the wrong people, they are the ones who impaired you. Your husband, well, like you wrote, he brought nothing but difficulty into your life. Enough of him, I’d say.

anita