Dear chris:

I am familiar with the concept of emotional intelligence, of course, but not with that book you mentioned. Hope it is helpful to you.

I like your profile: at least it has one sentence about your feelings, a personal note: needing someone in your life that will care about you.

In correspondence with young women online, continue expressing personal sentiments like that one. Say something personal in almost every correspondence. When you get a message from a match, take a moment, pay attention to what you feel, and write something short about how you feel. Reach out that way to the matches.

And once you do, let it go best you can. Minimize your expectations. Then when you get a further reply, do the same thing: pay attention, send a sentiment her way. As long as it is true and not too much so you don’t feel too disappointed if and when you don’t get a reply or you get a reply that feels inadequate.

Post again anytime. I’d like to continue to try and help you with your aim to get involved in positive interactions with others and the loving relationship you naturally need and want.

anita